Name (or LJ Username): Renee--bride-to-be (Wow! I am still in shock writing that)
Partner's name: Qais groom-to-be
Age: I am 36, he is 26
What country are you from: USA
What country is your partner from: Afghanistan
Who's going where (immigration wise): He is coming here.
Anticipated Wedding Date: We haven't set a date yet. He just proposed this past Sunday!
What's your story?
I went back to school for social work. I wasn't expecting to meet anyone and I was thinking that I was just going to concentrate on my studies and not date. Then I met Qais! He is the kindest, most generous, most loving man I have ever met. He is on a Fulbright scholarship to Ball State University in journalism. He is scared to go back home because his best friend Parwez Kambakhsh, who is also a journalist is in prison for standing up for women's rights! There was a time when authorities were coming after him as well, right before he came to Ball State University. His safety is the utmost importance to me, needless to say.
Any way, we met at a Ramadan event back in September. I found him to be funny, charming and very handsome. We started dating soon afterward and have been absolutely inseparable ever since. I sure hope that we can be together here in the US because it wouldn't be safe for us to go to Afghanistan. We'd live in constant fear of me being kidnapped or worse, or him being imprisoned by the religious crazies or worse. We also would not want our children to live in such terror either.
We both would love to see a happy, prosperous, peaceful Afghanistan. That is our dream.
I love Qais so much. I want him to be happy. He's been through so much growing up. He grew up in a war zone. He's seen people killed right before his eyes. When he was ten years old his father took him to the battleground with him in a tank. His father sat little Qais on top of the tank and enemies started to shoot at him! He also helped out with picking up dead bodies from the field. I just can't imagine seeing all that as a small child!
I just want us to have a happy life together because I love him more than I've loved anyone in my life. He is the most gentle, kindest, sweetest man I've ever met and I never want to lose him.